he power of a fantasy is amazing. Yet few couples ever indulge in each others fantasies. Some
feel that fantasies are private issues that shouldn't be exposed. Others are just too embarrassed to fully release their
fantasies to anyone.
In an open healthy relationship fantasies can provide a much needed escape from reality. In addition,
openly sharing these inner secrets with your mate unlocks hidden desires that will benefit both partners. It is always
better to know the secret sexual desires of your mate than it is for him to keep them locked inside. Awareness is
power.
Do you know exactly what your lovers sexual fantasies are? Most women think they do. At the same time most
cannot detail the fantasy. Here is a major key to fantasies. When your mate is visualizing his ultimate sexual
encounter he is very detailed about how things are developing. How his mind formats the fantasy is of
extreme importance. Knowing that his inner most secret desire is a threesome is not enough.
Details are what arouse and bring out emotions.
The million dollar question now is, how do you get the juicy details of your lovers wildest fantasy?
First and foremost, realize that he may be apprehensive about detailing his secrets to you. Your first order of
business is to set him at ease. His first concern is that you may find his fantasy upsetting. Breaking down this barrier
will benefit your relationship in many ways. Opening up to each other is healthy. It builds a solid unified
relationship.
Once you have assured him that he can confide in you, the next step is to use effective questions. Once you get him
talking about his fantasy, ask questions that bring out details. How does it begin? Where is it happening?
What acts or positions are going on? What about the fantasy excites him? When does he climax? You can also enhance the details by adding your own comments. Excite him with your participation.
A great time to bring out these conversations is at night, while laying in bed. Done correctly, this can
be a personal romantic time that will flame the fires of passion. This should be an enjoyable experience for both of you. Be playful. Let your mind go and indulge in the moment. You now have the power to unleash the tiger in him. Enjoy!
Michael S. Martinez is a freelance writer and author of Secrets of Sexcess
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