Men, Women and Their Views on Sex...
and the Opposite Sex

What do you think about during sex?

Chelsea, California - Well in the past I thought about the pleasure of it. Or at bad times I thought about what I was going to have for supper that night. It all depends on the men. I know I must seem shallow for a woman, but I seem to have the sexual drive of a male. Sometimes I thought about why I couldn't have an orgasm with that certain someone. But now all I think of during sex is how hot my boyfriend looks naked, and how I never want to stop, I could possibly go on all day and night having sex - or until my body cramped up! (laugh) I even think of how much I love him, and how I never want to have sex with another man. I've gone soft for him. True love is where the best sex is!

John, Toronto - Sex. Performance. Exciting visuals. The occasional other-woman fantasy. Sometimes I think about work if it's bugging me, but I usually get back to thinking about what I'm doing pretty quick.

Alexis, Los Angeles - I usually think about how big or small it is, or else I think of the first time I did it.

Marcus, New York City - I think about how to make both of us have a good time. I just get into it and concentrate on the feeling and her.

Candi, Georgia - About my feelings for that person and his feelings for me. About not being too noisy! And, about making sure I get mine before he gets his!!!

Ron, London - If what I am doing is pleasing her. I do not want to be a lousy lover. I watch her response to my actions and ask her if she likes what I am doing or can I do it better. I do not think about other women only about performance and get a little frustrated if I feel I'm not getting her off enough.

Megan, Australia - Sometimes I think about what I have to do the next day, problems, it depends, sometimes I wish it was over, sometimes I wish it wouldn't end, mainly I think about the person I'm with.

Dolly, Egypt - Sometimes I think "Is this move right, is it going with the rythem". or "God, I wish would do so and so..." or, "I wish he would love me now forever..."

Beau, New York - I think about fucking, her body, how much I'm enjoying it, and how long it's gonna take me to get it again.

Jay, England - About pleasing my partner, looking at her facial expressions, pure pleasure.

Denise, MA - I think about how focused I am on my partner. I am very self conscious. I am thinking "he's not enjoying this, is he?" But that is just me.

Mickie, MN - I think about the atmosphere and sensation. I concentrate on making the experience as good for him as he is for me. My hands are always roaming his body.

Bobbie Vee - During sex, the main thing I think about is how special the person I am with is to me and how involved I am with this person. Sometimes I also think about being sure that I satisfy her. I think it is kind of rude when you "peak", if you will, and your partner doesn't.

Abbey, Montreal - Most of the time I think about how good it feels... if it feels good, I think (and say) how I don't want it to stop. But if it feels bad I think of how I'm going to fake orgasam.

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