Men, Women and Their Views on Sex...
and the Opposite Sex

Should a woman/man ever tell you about her/his sexual past?

Chelsea, California - This should be in the 10 commandments! If you want to be truthful with someone... if you really love that person or see a future with them... you should always tell them about your sexual past. There's nothing worse than waking up a week after having sex with someone and having a burning sensation when you pee!

John, Toronto - Yes. Not all at once, but as trust develops, it's important, indeed crucial, to be straight with one another.

Alexis, Los Angeles - No, I don't think a man should say anything to a woman about his sexual past, because then the women can use that against them when they are arguing. She might say something like, "Why don't you just go back to Sue you like her better anyways!"

Marcus, New York City - Not a good idea. Then you get into comparison.

Candi, Georgia - Yes, to a certain extent. You may not want to know the tiny details but, you should know if the person has "been around" a lot! Or on the other hand if the person has any problems like sexual dysfunction or abuse in their past.

Ron, London - Tell her about old girl friends? Definetly against the 'rules'. However, every couple is different. If I felt comfortable with it and I knew that she would not be offended or upset, yes I would. If I had a STD then I have no choice in the name of humanity to tell her what I have. I would not sleep with her to protect her.

Megan, Australia - It depends, not really though, unless the person has an STD or something. Other than that, it was private so keep it that way.

Dolly, Egypt - I believe in being open and private, it absolutly depends on the person, but I believe just a little info is enough.

Beau, New York - Yes, if the relationship is at that point, or before people descide to have unprotected sex with each other.

Jay, England - Yes and NO. It really depends on how understanding your partner is, because they can always hold that against you and judge you from it.

Denise, MA - Yes, in this day in age you can never be to safe. I would not want to know gory details, just the jist of things. You should know that you are not just sleeping with your partner, but everyone who they have slept with.

Mickie, MN - It is very important to be honest about sexual histories. I always like to know how many people the guys I date have slept with. Nowadays, there are too many diseases and risks to worry about, so they should tell you straight out.

Bobbie Vee - Yes. If two people are far enough into a relationship where sex becomes an issue they should definitely be able to talk about their past sex lives. Sometimes you might find some things out that you might not want to know or that might upset you but it is always better to be safe. Always be willing to hear you partner out and make them feel comfortable telling you anything.

Abbey, Montreal - I think it depends. If you're in the middle of intercourse, definetly not... it ruins the moment, same as while eating supper or watching a movie. Your partner should ask you first if he wants to hear about it.

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