Men, Women and Their Views on Sex...
and the Opposite Sex

Should a woman/man ever play hard to get?

Chelsea, California - I have played hard to get, and it gets you nowhere really, so I'd have to say: definetly not. That is how you find yourself lonely. People don't like waiting around. Be up front with someone, if you like them tell them how you feel. Don't lead them astray!

John, Toronto - No, it's demeaning to both parties and introduces lying into the relationship. Honesty first!

Alexis, Los Angeles - I think women should play hard to get. I'm not so sure about the guys playing hard to get though, but the women almost always should so she won't seem like she's desperate.

Marcus, New York City - It can work if a woman plays hard to get. I look at it as more of a challenge. It drives me to her.

Candi, Georgia - Yes, but for a short period of time only. Playing hard to get increases the mystery and the chase and get the adrenaline and imagination going. But too long of a time frame becomes tiresome and boring or, to say the least, frustrating.

Ron, London - Yes! Although it's quite fustrating for the man at times. I think that if I really like her then I would not let that deter me. This proves to me that she is not easy to go to bed with, and if she is interested in me then maybe she would not let me out of her sight. I hope!

Megan, Australia - Not too much, but a little, it becomes a game where the person becomes the prize. It adds curiosity, and a little confusion, and half the fun is finding out.

Dolly, Egypt - Sure, but not only when timing is right or else things will turn very much to the opposite of the desired effect. We shouldn't count on playing hard to get much, because you still never know how the person will react!

Beau, New York - Sure, if they want to see how the other person will react, but only for a little while.

Jay, England - I don't think so, however a little games can be fun as long as it doesn't take forever.

Denise, MA - They should not make it look like they are too eager. Just a little bit hard to get. Not so much that the other thinks they are losing hope. Enough to draw mystery in to the small, building relationship.

Mickie, MN - Playing hard to get is okay only to a certain point. I like it when a guy calls me. I only give out my number to guys I'm really interested in, so I hope they do call me. Playing hard to get is alright until you start leading people on. I don't think that you should say stuff like "I want to have sex with you" if you don't mean it, but flirting is fun.

Bobbie Vee - I don't think so. I think that if someone plays hard to get then it makes the other person worry about if they are getting their hopes up for nothing. If you like someone then don't act like you don't. Let them know or you could be causing yourself to miss out on the greatest thing that could have ever happened to you.

Abbey, Montreal - Definetly!! Playing hard to get can often make the night more pleasurable. You could end up having wild sex. Well, at least I have.

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