Men, Women and Their Views on Sex...
and the Opposite Sex

When you and a woman/man hit it off from the start, do you immediately think of a future with her/him?

Chelsea, California - I used to when I was younger, because I was ignorant and foolish. But as I got older I just wanted to embrace the moments that were good. I wanted to have fun and not think of kids or wedding plans, or money. You're only young once, the little relationships when you're growing up just make you wiser... so when you do meet Mr. Right you're ready for all obstacles!

John, Toronto - Used to. Now I'm a little more careful. Spouse-hunting can be risky. I hunted. I found. We married. She split because she hadn't really wanted the lifetime deal. That hurt. Now I'm a bit more one-day-at-a-time.

Alexis, Los Angeles - Sometimes I do if he is really fine and isn't cheap, but I don't really find myself doing that a lot.

Marcus, New York City - Usually what hits it off is sexual desire. Then, after I go through the normal attraction part, I start to think about it.

Candi, Georgia - No, in my younger more immature days I did. But now I realize that it is best not to daydream of the future but to spend time concentrating on the present and making the best of all it has to offer. I believe that thinking of the future prematurely sets unnecessary and unrealistic expectations of the relationship with no foundation to base it on.

Ron, London - Yes. If I want to settle down, then the thought will always cross my mind. I fantasise about the future with that person.

Megan, Australia - A bit, depends upon how well we hit it off.

Adriana, Mexico - Never, because my life and views can change so quickly that it is better not to make ideals about him.

Dolly, Egypt - I go crazy for the guy, but then there is always more to our future then bed... Eventually I start to feel that this person is my sex mate, soul sex mate and I want it to go on forever.

Beau, New York - Not right away, because I don't know anything about them when we first meet.

Jay, England - Not straight away. Maybe after many many weeks / months.

Denise, MA - No, because anything could happen. You have only met once, and it is not healthy to have such high expectations.

Mickie, MN - I've been dating the same guy for the past two years, and I just started thinking about a future with him. In the past I've made the mistake of putting all my faith in a guy, and I just ended up getting hurt by him.

Bobbie Vee - I do. I am the kind of person who can't wait for my chance to have my own family. I love kids and can't wait to have my own, but it all has to wait until I am out of college and am into my career. I do not want to have any kids or family until I can support them and give them all good lives. I do get very attached when things go great at first in a relationship. Sometimes it could be a bad thing but other times it could be good.

Abbey, Montreal - Definetly not. Thinking into the future like that nowadays is like winning 10 milling dollars in the lottery. It most probably won't happen.

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