Men, Women and Their Views on Sex...
and the Opposite Sex

Should a woman/man ever sleep with you on the first date?

Chelsea, California - Well, I have thought about this many times. I have slept with men on a first date...I think if you have chemistry or you think something will happen between you two...you should be able to have sex without feeling slutish. But another way of thinking about it is that you don't know where that person has been so if you're not brave enough to bring it up in coversation at dinner, than maybe you should think twice about letting him in at the end of the date. There's nothing wrong with a good night kiss though!

John, Toronto - Yes, no problem if the attraction is mutual.

Alexis, Los Angeles - No, I don't think a man should sleep with me on the fist date, because I have to know if I ever want to see him again and if I end up not liking him, then I will regret sleeping with that person.

Marcus, New York City - I don't think it's wrong for a woman to sleep with me on the first date. I wouldn't think any less of them as a person, but I likely wouldn't want a serious relationship with them either.

Candi, Georgia - No, because all of the curiosity is gone. You have accomplished in one night the most intimate and personal quality of that person. There is nothing to look forward to or dream about.

Ron, London - No. Maybe on the second date if she feels ok about it. I think some respect should be there for your first date, because I would not want her to feel that I only want her for her body. I like to get to know her a bit better personality wise.

Megan, Australia - If you want to see them afterwards then no, if it is a one night thing then just go for it, after all, if you aren't going to see them again you will wonder what they are like.

Adriana, Mexico - There are many reasons not to, but if you both really want to... I don't see why not.

Dolly, Egypt - No, I don't believe that it is right. One has to know the other person more, because there is always somthing called regret.

Beau, New York - That depends if there's alchohol involved, or if you are friends. In general, it's ok.

Jay, England - NO. It leaves nothing to be desired and besides - you hardly know the other person, their past etc. and you end up losing respect for them. Once you know each other better things progress and happen more naturally and it feels better for both parties.

Denise, MA - No way, you just met the person. You don't know any of their sexual past. You do not know if they have any diseases. You need to know what you are getting yourself into these days, you have to be responsible.

Mickie, MN - I think that it is okay for a woman to sleep with a guy on the first date ONLY if they both know that it is only for sex. If you are dating someone you are genuinely interested in, then sex should be put off until you know each other well. Having sex, or even getting naked on the first date, makes you see the person in a less serious way, so it makes a lasting relationship harder.

Bobbie Vee - No way. The gender doesn't make a difference. The only way anyone should be having sex with someone is if they are in love with them. And no one is in love with someone on the first date. It should be a little more special than that.

Abbey, Montreal - I really don't see anything wrong with it. If a man or woman decides that they are ready to have sex with someone on the first night, then so be it.

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