Men, Women and Their Views on Sex...
and the Opposite Sex

Do you compare your current girl/boyfriend to your exes?

Chelsea, California - NEVER! One - my boyfriend is so NOT like any of my ex's. Two - BIG mistake... if you're trying to keep a man never compare him to your ex's... unless you like chasing them down as they run out the house! Three - think about it... would you want them to compare you to their ex's? I don't think so!

John, Toronto - Yes, and favourably. She's a vast improvement.

Alexis, Los Angeles - Yes, and that is not good. Most of the time I try no to, but sometimes it just slips and it comes out.

Marcus, New York City - No because every person is different. However, I think you should learn from past experiences and ex's.

Candi, Georgia - Yes, even though it is not a very good idea to do this because it is unfair to the current man, it is inevitable. Because you always remember past experiences and familiar places it is difficult not to compare. The key thing is to remember not to judge the current by behavior of the former.

Ron, London - Naturally yes, but in my mind only; I do not make notes. I will NOT dump her if she is not better. This is wrong. I am with a girl because I want to be with her. Sex is something you improve upon with the same girl over a period of time. That the exciting prospect. I could compare our sex with the best sex manual in the world, then we would both fail. So as long as we enjoy each other, I do not care.

Megan, Australia - Yes, not on purpose, but it is natural.

Adriana, Mexico - Unfortunately, yes. I can't help it.

Dolly, Egypt - I did that once, but then one shouldn't expect much out of this comparison, it can be a bad idea...

Beau, New York - No. It's pointless because it will just make you miss your ex.

Jay, England - Yes, sometimes. But I don't think it's nice to compare because you end up woundering and thinking about others when you should really be focusing on the present person.

Denise, MA - NO I don't because I believe that everyone is different. It is not fair that people judge others by the actions of a person they knew in their past.

Mickie, MN - Honestly, yes, who doesn't. I like to use what I've learned from my past relationships to make my current one better. I try not to make the same mistakes twice.

Bobbie Vee - Sometimes I do. I don't think it is the best thing to do all the time. When you dated someone for a long time and then get with someone else, it is hard not to compare with your old girlfriend because that is what you get used to, but you have to learn that everyone is different and handles things in different ways.

Abbey, Montreal - Yes. Sadly enough to say it, after sex I think of who was better the one I have just had sex with or my past partners.

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